Online dating used to be a numbers game. Send a load of messages and see who bites. That’s no longer the case. To be successful on sites like Fish For Singles you need to be smart. If you’re sending lots of messages but getting no replies, read this to find out why…
You Don’t Have Enough Photos
It’s amazing how many people don’t upload photos to their online dating profiles. This is the first thing anyone sees. While a lot of us would like to say that appearance is less important than personality, there needs to be a degree of physical attraction. Would you contact someone without a photo? Probably not… If you do have a photo, is it the right type of photo? Do you have enough photos? We recently wrote about what type of photo you should use on your online dating profile so have a read of that if you’re unsure where to start.
You’re Messages Aren’t Engaging
Copy and paste messages are so easy to spot. If you’re writing a standard, generic message to everyone you come across, you’ll probably find you don’t get many responses. Make sure each message you send is tailored to the person receiving it. Mention something from their profile or something about one of their photos. This shows that you’ve made the effort to actually look at their profile.
Remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression. For more advice on writing a first message, read our recent blog post.
You Don’t Have Enough On Your Profile
Like having plenty of photos on your profile, writing about yourself is also extremely important. As well as your main profile text, on Fish For Singles, we also have a Q&A section which lets you tell other people more about who you are and what you’re looking for. While you don’t want to give everything away, it’s important to be clear about what it is you’re looking for. Having a well-written profile will increase the number of replies you receive.
You’re Messaging The Wrong People
You can have the perfect profile, plenty of photos and be saying all the right things but sometimes it’s just not meant to be. If you message someone who wants to find dates locally but you’re hundreds of miles away, you probably won’t get a response. If you’re looking for someone in a certain age range but this doesn’t match what they are looking for, you are unlikely to hear anything back. This just highlights the importance of properly reading profiles before you send a message. If you don’t seem compatible, don’t waste your time. There are plenty of other singles on Fish For Singles.
If you’re contacting a lot of people but getting no replies, take note of these possible reasons. Take a step back, consider changing your strategy and we’re sure you’ll see a positive change.
Until next time,
The Fish For Singles Team